Monday, September 26, 2011

The neighbor kid...

There's a kid in our neighborhood, who is 9. He's a friend of my youngest son. He's here a lot. He was here most of the summer. He's a nice kid, and my girls love him. His mom asked me at the beginning of the school year, if I would watch him a few days a week after school, and that she would pay me. I told her fine, even though the thought of having another kid to watch made me hesitate.  It's nice at the end of the day to just have my own kids. However, who am I to say no? That's unfortunately not my style,  a backbone is required for that, and we all know that I don't have one.
One day after school, when all hell was breaking lose because my girls were tired, and screaming at me, and because I was trying to get dinner ready, the dishes done and snacks passed out, I heard a voice behind me say "excuse me, Mrs. F?"  It's the neighbor kid, who has been sitting there watching the chaos "I think you're a really good mom" My heart has melted, and I said "awhh, thank you, that's really nice" and he continues, "you do so much for everyone! My mom just gets stressed out" Then he walks away.
It was the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time. Of course that moment faded quickly, when one of the girls started screaming at me for water, or something they can certainly get for themselves, but refuse to because apparently I owe them this because I have sent them away to school for the day. I announced to everyone what our neighbor had just said. In a sort of "see, someone thinks I'm awesome, now shut the fuck up!" kind of way (without cussing of course)
Anyway, the point of this, is that despite my hesitation to watch him, I'm glad I did. I know he loves it here. His parents recently divorced, so he alternates weeks between his mom's house, and his dads. I think coming here is sort of a refuge of all the stuff at home. He has an older brother, but they don't get along.
The next morning at the bus stop, I asked him if her remembered what he had told me. He said he did. I told him that that was the nicest thing anyone had ever said to me, and that it totally made my day.. he said thanks, and may have blushed a bit... I think that I may have made his day!

4 comments:

Leigh said...

My heart is melting. That is the sweetest thing! That just made my day Xian.

ps- you're an amazing mom, I truly admire you and your patience. Makes me want to try harder.

Unknown said...

thanks Leigh! now you have made my day! ;) xoxo

Barbara said...

You ARE an amazing mom--amazing woman! You have lots of patience and an awesome sense of humor...important with kids, no?

Anonymous said...

breaks my heart to think of this child is not having his needs met in his own home. good to know, that he has you and he feels safe and happy with you to express himself. keep up the good work!
-heidi